Louisa Saunders

Louisa Saunders is associate features editor of The Independent and writes a weekly advice column, The Help Desk, for the Independent on Sunday’s New Review magazine

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The Help Desk: A difficult case of coming out

Dear Louisa

The help desk: A case of a baby that won't settle

Q. I'm the mother of a 14-month-old baby girl and I'm exhausted. The problem is that I've never managed to find a reliable way to settle her down at night. Getting her to sleep has become a monster task that seems to stretch out over the whole evening. By the time she's finally asleep, I have little energy left to catch up with my husband.

The help desk: A case of a serial philanderer

Q. I first met my lover 12 years ago. I was 30 and single, he was married. He is the love of my life and also the cause of terrible pain over the years.

The Help Desk: A reluctant prospective father

Q. I live with my girlfriend, who I met after my divorce three years ago, and I love her deeply. But we have a serious problem. She's 32 (I'm 43) and she wants us to have a child.

The help desk: A faint-hearted feminist

Q. I am a single mother of a 13-year-old boy, and my sister and her family recently moved in next door. It's lovely for all of us, and my son spends lots of time at her house. But one thing's been worrying me. My sister and my teenage niece are strongly feminist. I'm most definitely a feminist myself, but they seem to see sexism everywhere and are very vocal about it.

The help desk: The possibility of an office romance

Q. I have developed a passion for a man I work with. I've known him for about two years, and I think about him all the time. Every week, he chairs our departmental meetings and I've seen the way he looks at me and the special smiles he gives me. Sometimes I'm certain he feels the same way and I long for him – but then I wonder if it's all in my head and agonise at the thought that we might never be together.

The help desk: A case of fading beauty

Q. At 38, I'm becoming fixated about losing my looks. I know there are so many worse problems to have, but privately, I mind like hell and I seem to have lost all my confidence. I've always been good-looking – I come from a good-looking family – and I admit I have taken advantage of this at times.

An issue of the feminist magazine Spare Rib. The writer Charlotte Raven has announced plans to resurrect the magazine

Feminist magazine Spare Rib returns – but will it have meat?

In yet another cheering sign that feminism’s third wave is gathering pace, the writer Charlotte Raven has announced plans to resurrect the dusty corpse of the radical feminist magazine Spare Rib.

Why is a generation of women choosing to go bare 'down there' ?

The politics of pubic hair: why is a generation choosing to go bare down there?

Shaved genitals have somehow become the new normal for an entire generation of women. Surely it’s time we asked why. Louisa Saunders ponders the politics of pubic hair

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The lure of Starbucks is almost alchemistic. However much anyone tells you it's an evil conglomerate peddling so-so beverages on a mass scale, you somehow can't shake a smug little feeling of rightness as you settle into its "third-space" shops and nod along to the strategically selected soundtrack.

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