Virginia Ironside

Virginia Ironside is an agony aunt, columnist and author. She writes the weekly Dilemmas column for The Independent.

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Virginia Ironside's Dilemmas: Keeping Mum

This reader is worried to hear her four-year-old refer to his father's new girlfriend as "mum". Should she raise the issue with her son? Or just keep quiet?

Virginia Ironside's Dilemmas: My teenage son is using ketamine and cocaine

A friend has suggested we kick him out onto the streets, but we can't bear it

Virginia Ironside's Dilemmas: My 67-year-old father is besotted with a 25-year-old woman

My brother and I looked her up on the internet and found she’s been in prison

Virginia Ironside's Dilemmas: He refuses to learn to play the piano

This reader can't find a way to get her son interested in learning a musical instrument

Virginia Ironside's Dilemmas: Weighty Matters

This reader has kept herself trim while her husband has steadily put on weight. Is there a tactful way to persuade the man she loves to loose a few pounds?

Virginia Ironside's Dilemmas: How can I get him to see the doctor?

He's in pain, but when his wife suggests getting professional advice, he refuses to go

Virginia Ironside's Dilemmas: Unhappy inheritance

Ten years ago her parents left her a small flat in their will. Now her partner says it's time to redecorate and sell up - but she just can't bring herself to do it.

Virginia Ironside's Dilemmas: I want to have sex again

This reader would like to initiate sex after five years of a celibate marriage - but what will her husband think? And will it upset the delicate balance of their relationship?

Virginia Ironside's Dilemmas: My adult daughter refuses to talk to me

The reader's adult daughter calls her a lousy mother. Should she cut her out the will?

Virginia Ironside's Dilemmas: Rental shame

This reader's daughter is sub-letting a council flat for her own profit. Should he go behind her back and tell the council?

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