Virginia Ironside is an agony aunt, columnist and author. She writes the weekly Dilemmas column for The Independent.
18 May 2015 04:59 PM
"They see their emotional breakdown as a weakness rather than simply a sign of perfectly normal humanity. They’re ashamed of themselves."
Reader dilemma: 'My 10 year-old child made a bad joke on Twitter, and the reaction has left her unable to cope'
11 May 2015 06:08 PM
"The first thing is to encourage her to stop using Twitter temporarily. When I’ve received a cruel letter, I haven’t kept it to mull over. Every time you reread cruel remarks aimed at you, you are traumatising yourself once again."
05 May 2015 04:32 PM
"It’s a good idea to ask yourself what you get out of listening to this unpleasant voice. Does it confirm a low opinion you have of yourself? Or is it a voice that guards you against disappointment?"
27 April 2015 06:05 PM
"He could be making a deliberate effort to freeze you out. He’s a new broom, who wants to sweep the place clean"
Depression Awareness Week: 'My life feels bleak, but should I dig up a painful past with counselling?'
20 April 2015 05:54 PM
"While some memories are successfully buried so deep that they can never rise to the surface, others demand attention"
13 April 2015 05:33 PM
'This tedious boasting is almost certainly the result of deep insecurity'
16 March 2015 07:00 PM
"You may realise that it wouldn’t be too bad after all"
03 February 2015 10:48 AM
"Dissatisfaction is her natural setting. It’s her comfort zone, and where she feels safest."
Assisted Dying Bill: I want to be able to decide about my own death - I want to have control of my life
29 January 2015 12:00 AM
19 January 2015 05:46 PM
"Trying to stop drinking isn’t good enough. You have, simply, got to stop. End of, as they say."
As a white man, I'm surprised more women aren't tweeting the hashtag #KillAllWhiteMen
Scotland may have to leave the EU even if it votes to stay in, David Cameron confirms
Report finds that Britain's wages are the most unequal in Europe
The day that Britain resigned as a global power
Almost a third of school pupils believe 'Muslims are taking over our country', study claims
Gay marriage 'Bert and Ernie' cake bakery found guilty of discrimination in Northern Ireland
- 1 Toddler throws a tantrum at the White House – in front of Barack Obama
- 2 Irish people are travelling home from all over the world so they can vote to legalise gay marriage
- 3 Picture of couple posing with beached dolphin 'that later died' causes outrage
- 4 16-year-old girl beaten and burned alive by lynch mob in Rio Bravo, Guatemala
- 5 Witch doctor arrested after forcing newborn baby to walk in Indian village