Single at Christmas. Is that such a bad thing?

 

As a single girl myself I know that all too often singles can be pitied because they’re on their own at Christmas. Even that sentence, ‘on their own’, sounds wrong. They’re not on their own, they’re just not in a relationship at that particular time. Besides, why should being single at Christmas be so miserable? It’s a great time of year whatever your age, whatever you relationship status.

The truth is, that despite the nosey relatives, hand-in-hand couples dominating every ice-rink and those sad looks from your friends, being single at Christmas isn’t all doom and gloom. So before you start despising your single status, try to appreciate the perks of being unattached at this time of year.

Time with loved ones 

Although you may not be dating someone special, there are other people in your life who you can spend quality time with. Christmas is the one time of the year that everyone gets together to enjoy one another’s company. From the older generations to the little ones, you just can’t beat family time at Christmas. And this year, instead of feeling awkward when they bring up the topic of your single status, why not fill them in on all of the fabulous things you’ve been up to.

Say yes to everything

Christmas is the ultimate party season so what better time to accept every invitation that comes your way than December. Being single means you have the freedom to do whatever you want to do, which may even make your coupled up friends a little envious. What’s more, you can enjoy getting all glammed up, flirt outrageously and have fun meeting new people.

Indulge yourself

Think of the money us singletons can save at Christmas not having to fork out on expensive gifts for our other halves. Ok so it does you mean you don’t get a gift in return but just think of it this way; you can spend your money on buying yourself a gift that you know you’ll love. Christmas is a time of indulgence, so why not start with yourself!

Go online

Online dating is not only a great way to meet new people, but it’s also a great way to broaden your horizons to see what’s out there. So, in-between unwrapping iPads and attending parties, why not settle down on the sofa; armed with a tin of chocolates and a stack of Christmas films and sign yourself up to a dating site.

New year, new you

The great thing about New Year is that it signifies a time for fresh starts and new beginnings. With only yourself to think about you can concentrate on what will make you happy in the year ahead. Whether it’s a change in career you’re looking for, taking up a new hobby, doing a bit of travelling or making some dating resolutions, you’ve got no one else to consider other than yourself. So start planning how you can make 2013 your best year yet!

So whatever your relationship status this Christmas, ditch the ‘bah-humbug’ attitude and celebrate in your own special single way; and whatever you do don’t let anyone feel sorry for you. Failing that, why not just hang around under the mistletoe and see what Santa sends your way!

Why not join Independent Dating or log in to your account now and give someone a chance today!

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