Dear Virginia

My best friend has asked me to be godmother to her first baby. She is religious, but I don't believe in God and am therefore unsure whether to accept. My husband says the promises mean very little and I should simply accept the invitation. My friend says it doesn't matter to her. But even though I don't believe in God, I still feel that to utter promises I don't mean would be wrong. Am I being silly?

Yours, Joanna

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