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Access denied: Eating Disorder treatments

Nobody should have to fight or get down on their knees and beg for help.

Anne Nolan: "I felt nothing when my father died. But telling the truth about him changed everything"

Four years ago Anne Nolan spoke out after a childhood of abuse. She explains what happened next

Virginia Ironside's Dilemmas

For three years I had an affair with a man living in our village. We're both married. Then I left my husband to go off with this man, but after a couple of months we both realised it was a mistake. I'm now back with my husband – happier than ever, oddly – but my ex-lover's wife is causing no end of trouble. I work in the village shop and last week she came in and threw a bucket of water over me. Sometimes she comes in and screams at me. My ex-lover says there's nothing he can do. And I'm too ashamed to go to the police. What can I do? Yours sincerely, Megan

How do you know what to try?

Say no to the scalpel

So you'd never have a facelift – but what about a little 'help'? The newest hi-tech, non-invasive treatments can have dramatic effects – but not all of them are for the fainthearted

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<p>From £42, storysack.com</p>
<p>A cloth bag packed with items – book , CD, activity guide, games, props, scenery, soft toys and more – that bring a story to life.</p>

The 10 Best pre-school toys

1. Storysack

From £42, storysack.com

A cloth bag packed with items – book , CD, activity guide, games, props, scenery, soft toys and more – that bring a story to life.

Time for a new approach to alcohol

Ambulances were called and three drunk teenagers were brought to my care. One was so drunk we had to suction out the vomit from her mouth to stop her choking to death.

Procrastination is in our genetic make-up

Procrastination: Not now – I'm busy

From paperwork to paying the bills, we're all guilty of putting off tasks we know we can't avoid. But confronting the real reasons for procrastination can help us beat it

<p>1. Grass Sledge</p>
<p>£255.33, grass-sledge.co.uk</p>
<p>This toboggan skims down grassy slopes as smoothly as snowy ones. Sit back in the moulded seat and have the ride of your life.</p>

The 10 Best sledges

1. Grass Sledge

£255.33, grass-sledge.co.uk

This toboggan skims down grassy slopes as smoothly as snowy ones. Sit back in the moulded seat and have the ride of your life.

Home from home: a scene from 'The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel'

Fun in the sunset years

A new movie follows a group of retirees moving to India to seek low-cost care, a gentler climate and a culture of respect for the elderly. For thousands of Britons, this is already a reality

Virginia Ironside's Dilemmas

My husband and I have a joint email account, and the other day I was checking to see if I'd sent an email when I came across an email my husband had written to a friend. It read: "Thank you for listening to all my woes. This has, as you can imagine, been the most terrible worry for me, and you are the only person I can confide in." I have no idea what he was talking about – my husband doesn't have any worries that I know of. Do you think I should tackle him about it and find out what the problem is? Yours sincerely, Elisa

Virginia Ironside's Dilemmas

I was recently bicycling along past a neighbour's house when his dog came out and bit me. It wasn't just a nip. Eventually, as it became infected, I had to get hospital treatment. I feel angry because the dog's owner, an elderly man who's lived there for years, didn't seem to appreciate the severity of the attack, and rather brushed it off. I didn't go to the police because I didn't want the dog put down, but I still feel resentful. Was there anything I could have done – or should do now – to make this man feel more responsible? Yours sincerely, Ed

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<p>£23.64, play.com</p>
<p>Keep your loved ones with you all day long with this tiny digital picture frame. Plug it into your laptop, transfer up to 100 photographs and, hey presto, you've got a miniature photo gallery.</p>

The 10 Best Valentine's gifts

1. Kodak Smile Key Chain

£23.64, play.com

Keep your loved ones with you all day long with this tiny digital picture frame. Plug it into your laptop, transfer up to 100 photographs and, hey presto, you've got a miniature photo gallery.

The death squad: Alison Thompson with her team at the coroner's office in West London

Alison Thompson: 'I see danger all around me now'

Coroner Alison Thompson's job is to get to the truth about unexplained deaths. Every day, it brings her face to face with heartbreak and human frailty – but it's still the most cheerful place she's ever worked, she tells Enjoli Liston

<p>1. Lamy Raspberry</p>
<p>£18.99, cohaku.com</p>
<p>The Lamy, with its slim-grip barrel, is great for little hands. It looks cool, too, and comes with a choice of large, medium or fine nibs.</p>

The 10 Best fountain pens

1. Lamy Raspberry

£18.99, cohaku.com

The Lamy, with its slim-grip barrel, is great for little hands. It looks cool, too, and comes with a choice of large, medium or fine nibs.

Soul survivor: Nick Coleman

Tinnitus: When the music stops

A rare condition left critic Nick Coleman unable to hear the music he adored. Here, he explains how he learned to listen again

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