Life Support: How to have a long-distance relationship
Monday 06 July 2009
Make it work
Travelling and working abroad means that we are often separated from partners, friends and family for lengthy periods. Just because these separations are common, does not mean that they are always easy. However, there are lots of things you can do to make it more bearable.
Prioritise keeping in touch. If living in different time zones is making speaking on the phone difficult, then use other methods of communication, such as texts, emails and letters. It's much easier to be romantic when you're miles apart – try penning a love letter to someone sitting 3ft away from you on the sofa. Remember to share the small details of your life as well as the big stuff, as it will help you to feel connected.
Having fun is the easiest way to take your mind off the pain of missing someone. If you're the one away, make the most of the opportunity you've got to see and do new things, while if you have been left at home then don't just sit around pining.
Whether you're being reunited for a weekend or for good, try not to put too much pressure on the time you spend together. It's natural that you'll look forward to seeing loved ones again, but if you build it up it could be disappointing if it is not perfect. This is why couples who have counted down the days to their reunion often find themselves fighting.
Have faith in yourself and those you're apart from. This does not just apply to romantic relationships – in which it is absolutely vital – it is also important to trust that your friends and family haven't forgotten you. If anything, a separation will have made them appreciate you all the more.
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