Is better sex about doing your chores?

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According to Ian Kerner, PhD, sex therapist and NY Times best-selling author of She Comes First, the best foreplay for women is 'choreplay,' or when a man does household chores without being asked like the dishes, laundry and vacuuming.

The site GoodInBed.com devoted July 19-25 to helping you have a "better sex life," focusing on foreplay and with Kerner 'on-call.'

Kerner commented, "once guys start carrying their weight around the house, they're apt to find that women have more energy inside the bedroom. There's no motivation like sex!" and sparked an AskMen.com forum discussion about "SAHM" (stay-at-home moms) and "jack-holes" that don't do their part around the house.

'Choreplay' has been studied by various researchers from Lebanon to Canada, and in 2010 a tongue-in-cheek calendar  Porn for Women was released with each month featuring a man doing a chore around the house.  Porn for Women is a photo book series published by Chronicle Books that began in 2007. The 2011 wall calendar is to be published on July 28 priced at $13.99/€10.85.    

Cleaning products have even adopted the concept for ad campaigns; take a look at "That's the power of Pine-Sol, baby" ad: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yC6Mvncr0pg

However 'choreplay' may not be the answer to intimacy issues and according to The National Housework Survey of Great Britain 2006, 60 percent of British women claimed cleaning is "mentally therapeutic" and better than sex.

But Neil Chetnik, author of Voice Male: What husbands really think about their marriages, their wives, sex, housework and commitment (Kindle $13.95/€10.81), found 288 husbands agreed, "the more satisfied a wife is with the division of household duties, the more satisfied a man is with his married sex life."

Hear what the vlog DadLabs.com thinks in their clip "Choreplay: Does it Work?": http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=syVSK6EpgYo

If your house is clean and you contribute to the "more than 100 million acts of sex occurring every day," (a World Health Organization's (WHO) technical report estimate) you might be more concerned with boredom in the bedroom. GoodInBed.com is to tackle 'bore-play' on July 26:  http://www.goodinbed.com/discus/profile/?id=28

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