6 signs you are in a toxic relationship

The signs that you may need to escape your relationship

When you’re in the midst of a toxic relationship, it can often be hard to recognise the signs that something isn’t right.

Whether your partner is controlling you financially or being aggressive, it’s important to safely remove yourself from said relationship, if possible.

Users on Quora discussed some of the tell-tale signs of a toxic relationship and the warning signs that should be looked out for.

Author Randy B. Hampton wrote: “If you're afraid to tell your friends or family what's happening in your relationship, it's probably toxic,” before adding: “If your partner directs, advises, or orders you to not talk to friends and family members, it's probably toxic.”

Quora user Jaie Hart argued that invalidating comments followed by “niceties so you are instantly confused” could be a sign that something isn’t right. She also added that “overly playing the ‘poor me’ act”, could be a signal that you’re being manipulated.

A woman named Melinda Judy revealed her own experiences of being in a toxic relationship, and wrote:  “The person will try to control every part of your life and often force you to exclude your friends and family members, insisting that you give all your attention and energy to him/her.”

She also described “being cross examined every time you come back from anywhere and accused of sleeping around with someone else”, as a sign of a relationship gone wrong.

Refuge, a charity who help women and children caught up in domestic abuse, also have a list of the signs that point to an abusive relationship on their website.

They include a jealous or possessive partner, one who humiliates or insults in front of others, having to change your behaviour in order not to make them angry, constant criticism and controlling of finances, what they should wear and who they should be friends with. 

If feel you are in a toxic relationship and need to seek help or support, you can contact domestic abuse charity Refuge or relationship counselling group Relate for help.