The term describes those people who contact you intermittently in order to keep you interested, but are stubbornly vague on whether a relationship will ever blossom. Then they vanish, and the cycle starts again. They keep you in limbo, just in case someone better comes along.
The trail of morsels that breadcrumbers leave can range from seemingly random flirtatious texts, to likes on Instagram photos from three weeks ago without making any further contact.
“The worst type of breadcrumber is the one who resurfaces every six months, and like the Loch Ness monster, you almost can’t believe this creature has come back into your life,” Alicia Winokur, a recent graduate of Mount Holyoke College, told the New York Times. “But there he is, saying, ‘Hey, I was just thinking about you’.”
But in a world where everything is instant, is crying "breadcrumb" the worst sign of entitlement? After all, texting back and forth doesn’t mean someone is bound to you.
It’s complicated, says Dr Gayle Brewer, senior lecturer in psychology at the University of Central Lancashire. Such labels can be a useful way to behaviour that we find inappropriate or hurtful, she told The Independent.
10 Famous People You Could Date On Tinder
10 Famous People You Could Date On Tinder
1/10 Hilary Duff
A year after splitting from her husband Mike Comrie, the newly single Lizzie McGuire child star has started a profile on Tinder so she can date normal folks, like you or I.
2/10 Leonardo DiCaprio
OK, so the days of Titanic poster boy Leo might be dead in the water, but that hasn't stopped famous lady's man Mr DiCaprio from making himself publicly available. According to "a source" he's been swiping away as a "Leonard".
3/10 Katy Perry
"I’m really deep on Tinder so I don’t have a whole lot of time," the pop singer told one radio station following her split from John Mayer for the umpteenth time last year.
4/10 Shane Warne
Lock up your mothers - Shane Warne is just 13km away, according to his profile. The former cricketer landed himself in hot water via the dating app when a mother-of-two from Adelaide cashed in on their apparently steamy Tinder hookup.
5/10 Lindsay Lohan
Imagine Lindsay Lohan's face when she was happily swiping through Tinder one day and came across her own brother? “Look who I just found on @tinderapp ... hey bro,” she tweeted.
6/10 Chris Pine
Whether he's actually on there RIGHT NOW, at this VERY MOMENT, remains unclear. But Chris Pine did tell Cosmopolitan recently: “I have a couple of buddies who use Tinder. Whatever eases the process is great, since it can be awkward or uncomfortable meeting someone.”
7/10 Lily Allen
Is very much married to a builder. But that hasn't stopped her enjoying the contagious swipe action in her spare time. “Just discovered tinder,” the singer wrote on Twitter. “*waves goodbye to life*”
8/10 Ed Sheeran
What do you mean you wouldn't want to date pop music's favourite Fraggle, Ed Sheeran? Well you can't. "I got offered the first verified Tinder account," he admitted. However, he added: "I did say no. I haven't got time to go on loads of dates." He wants to play music, or something. No idea.
9/10 Britney Spears
Jimmy Fallon added the singer to the app himself in September 2014 after she split up from David Lucado. Whether she used it or not...
10/10 Samuel Preston
OK, so we've swung down market somewhat. See also Calum Best and the entire cast of Made In Chelsea. They're all on there. Happy swiping.
“The person on the receiving end may believe that they are at fault and unnecessarily question what they have said or done. They may also become reluctant to form romantic relationships or be less trusting.
To Dr Brewer, the whole mess could be avoided if people were clear about the type of relationship they are looking for: whether that is hooking-up or something casual while they consider their options.
“With this information, people can then decide whether to pursue the relationship and what to expect. If people are not comfortable with the agreement or if they want more than their partner can give, it might be time to end the relationship and look elsewhere.”Reuse content