Scoring

1. a = 4 b = 3 c = 2 d = 1

2. a = 3 b = 4 c = 2 d = 1

3. a = 4 b = 3 c = 2 d = 1

4. a = 3 b = 4 c = 2 d = 1

5. a = 4 b = 3 c = 2 d = 1

The point here is not what you or your partner scored, but what the difference between your scores is. Add up your score, and then your partner's, and then work out by how much they differ.

How many points apart were you?

0-4 You seem to share with your partner similar views on politics, life plan, religious beliefs etc, and also to have matching interests and enthusiasms. This very brief test suggests the two of you should be highly compatible.

5-10 You have some important points of difference with your partner, but also similarities. Differences don't have to be stumbling blocks for your relationship, so long as you maintain your lines of communication.

11-15 Only you can decide how much weight to put on differences with your partner, but it could be worth discussing further a range of topics, from religion to recreation, and being open and honest about your views.

Phillip Hodson is a Fellow of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy www.bacp.co.uk.

www.philliphodson.co.uk