Being Modern: Sex tips for girls
Sunday 19 August 2012
With the death of Helen Gurley Brown last week, the world lost one of the pioneers of the very notion that women enjoy sex. Cosmopolitan editor and author of Sex and the Single Girl in 1962, Brown promoted the idea that sex wasn't just a married woman's duty, but something for all women to get stuck in to. Under her editorship, Cosmo was re-invented as a have-it-all manual, brimming with career tips, fashion forecasts – and plenty of advice on how to get satisfaction in the sack.
So far, so revolutionary. But Brown also saw sex as a means to an end. Sure, single girls were entitled to steamy fun, but sex was often promoted as a tool for getting what you want, be that a promotion or (surprise, surprise) the perfect husband. Brown might have been writing on the cusp of the feminist movement, but her advocating of using your sexy, feminine wiles in order to trap a man seems like the idea that's really stuck around in the women's press.
A quick look at today's glossy magazines suggests that the advice – "50 kinky sex moves", "75 sex moves men crave", "78 ways to turn him on" – has become more explicit, lengthier and, frankly, loopier (you do what exactly with an ice cube?) than in Cosmopolitan's early days. And it's had to: publishers now realise that the thing to keep readers returning is the lure of newer, better, hotter tips, or the promise of a revelatory move to transform you into a sex goddess.
But depressingly it is still, usually, about how to turn him on, how to drive him wild, how to impress him with your, erm, corkscrew tongue technique. Women's magazines, alongside TV shows such as Sex and the City, may have helped create the empowered independent single lady who can have sex with whom she likes, when she likes, as kinkily as she likes – and hurrah for that. But they also still assume that the romantic end game is pleasing your man, shagging him into submission so you get the big frock and a special day. Sex tips for girls? Well, sort of.
Life & Style blogs
Malaysia Airlines MH17 crash: Vladimir Putin is given 'one last chance' to end hostilities in Ukraine
The 'scroungers’ fight back: The welfare claimants battling to alter stereotypes
The truth about conspiracy theories is that some require considering
Malaysia Airlines MH17 crash: Ukrainian military jet was flying close to passenger plane before it was shot down, says Russian officer
Malaysia Airlines MH17 crash: Massive rise in sale of British arms to Russia
Malaysia Airlines MH17 crash: victims’ bodies bundled in black bags and loaded onto trains
£49000 - £55000 per annum + competitive: Progressive Recruitment: My client is...
£48000 - £54000 per annum + Benefits package: Progressive Recruitment: My clie...
£35000 - £45000 per annum + competitive: Progressive Recruitment: If you're pa...
£45000 - £55000 per annum + competitive: Progressive Recruitment: SAP Business...