There is no doubt the emergence of dating apps such as Tinder have completely changed the way people meet and date.
But Tinder may have also changed the way we think by teaching us that “nothing matters unless you want it to matter”.
In an essay for The New Inquiry, titled 'Tinderization of Feeling', authors Alicia Eler and Eve Peyser explore the concept that Tinder teaches people “emotional disassociation”.
Ms Eler and Ms Peyser, both writers based in the US, suggest Tinder is not just a dating app, but also a “metaphor for speeding up and mechanising decision-making”, therefore making humans robotic.
According to them, Tinder users, mostly millenials, are required to make decisions fast when using the app that it almost turns the process into a game.
The 'yes/no' nature of the app has turned into a culture of its own, over-simplifying the decision-making process until the idea of "maybe" is but a mere inconvenience.
10 Famous People You Could Date On Tinder
10 Famous People You Could Date On Tinder
1/10 Hilary Duff
A year after splitting from her husband Mike Comrie, the newly single Lizzie McGuire child star has started a profile on Tinder so she can date normal folks, like you or I.
2/10 Leonardo DiCaprio
OK, so the days of Titanic poster boy Leo might be dead in the water, but that hasn't stopped famous lady's man Mr DiCaprio from making himself publicly available. According to "a source" he's been swiping away as a "Leonard".
3/10 Katy Perry
"I’m really deep on Tinder so I don’t have a whole lot of time," the pop singer told one radio station following her split from John Mayer for the umpteenth time last year.
4/10 Shane Warne
Lock up your mothers - Shane Warne is just 13km away, according to his profile. The former cricketer landed himself in hot water via the dating app when a mother-of-two from Adelaide cashed in on their apparently steamy Tinder hookup.
5/10 Lindsay Lohan
Imagine Lindsay Lohan's face when she was happily swiping through Tinder one day and came across her own brother? “Look who I just found on @tinderapp ... hey bro,” she tweeted.
6/10 Chris Pine
Whether he's actually on there RIGHT NOW, at this VERY MOMENT, remains unclear. But Chris Pine did tell Cosmopolitan recently: “I have a couple of buddies who use Tinder. Whatever eases the process is great, since it can be awkward or uncomfortable meeting someone.”
7/10 Lily Allen
Is very much married to a builder. But that hasn't stopped her enjoying the contagious swipe action in her spare time. “Just discovered tinder,” the singer wrote on Twitter. “*waves goodbye to life*”
8/10 Ed Sheeran
What do you mean you wouldn't want to date pop music's favourite Fraggle, Ed Sheeran? Well you can't. "I got offered the first verified Tinder account," he admitted. However, he added: "I did say no. I haven't got time to go on loads of dates." He wants to play music, or something. No idea.
9/10 Britney Spears
Jimmy Fallon added the singer to the app himself in September 2014 after she split up from David Lucado. Whether she used it or not...
10/10 Samuel Preston
OK, so we've swung down market somewhat. See also Calum Best and the entire cast of Made In Chelsea. They're all on there. Happy swiping.
In the phenomenon dubbed “Tinderization”, people escape fostering real intimacy and vulnerability by avoiding confrontation, which the app allows them to do.
The authors say this traps people in a cycle of: “Swipe right, match, date, f**k, unmatch, rematch, repeat”.
Distancing oneself from potential intimacy can also be seen as “chill”, a romanticised state of passivity that “rationalises self-centredness as an acceptable by-product of too many choices”.
The authors argue that being too “chill” is a sign of not having the “emotional energy” to socialise or deal with people, and seems only to be a good thing on-screen.
“Away from the screen, chill seems less chill and more like a sad wish that people were more robotic, without needs or feelings, hermetically self-fulfilling and self-fulfilled,” they write.
However, we can break away from “Tinderization” simply by “including” people in our everyday lives.
The importance of intricacy in human relationships become more apparent when you allow the people in your life, the “rescuers”, to participate in it.
They write: “To be without intricacies is to be without emotional boundaries, to disregard whoever whenever.
“[Best friends] are your heart, and they transcend any efficiency that the Tinderization Bestie Robot attempts to offer you in its binary fantasy.”
However, the suggestion here is not to give up on Tinder completely, but to allow yourself “emotional accountability” once the app has facilitated your first date.
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