Dear Virginia,

Ever since I was a teenager I have had a problem with blushing. I blush at the slightest thing - and it's completely blighting my life. My friends tell me it doesn't show but I know they're being kind.

A group of friends have asked me to go on holiday with them next month and I have said I would. But now, although I'd love to go, I feel I can't face it because I know I will go red all over if I wear a swimsuit - I've got fat thighs anyway and can't bear anyone to see them.

Even when the lights are low at parties I know people can tell I'm blushing because I go so dark red and I sweat. Should I back out of the holiday? Or has anyone an answer to this agonising problem that is completely ruining my life?

Yours sincerely, Donna

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