Escapism: getting away - moving house, jobs or marriages - does not work if you don't face the real problem.
Fantasy: living life in a day-dream allows us to avoid responsibilities.
Phobias: causes great distress but can also divert from your real anxiety.
Hypochondria: gives you a lot to talk about and often masks anxieties that may not be as acceptable to admit to.
Rationalisation: lets you tell everybody all the good reasons for what has happened - except the real one.
Competitiveness: if you take winning too seriously you can end up suffering from "achievement anxiety" where anything other than complete success is a failure.
Perfectionism: creates a vicious cycle of stress.
Romanticism and/or nostalgia: when you think the world really was (and ought to be) rose-coloured.
Martyrdom: our attempt to manipulate others while never facing why we are hurt.Reuse content