Terence Blacker: Why Britons love la vie en rose
Tuesday, 30 September 2008
Beyond all those earnest lifestyle articles about down-sizing and the simple life, between the lines of those conference speeches about "broken Britain", lies one big, simple question: how best can we be happy?
Never before has our world been as obsessed by the idea of finding happiness as it is today. Entire faculties have been established to analyse it as a new and important social science. Forget economics, we are told; there should be a Gross National Happiness index to reveal how each country is doing in the race for contentment.
Here is a small contribution to this great debate. Those wishing to understand happiness better merely have to cross the Channel. There they should look beyond the French, who are as complicated as any other nation and whose position in a recent international happiness poll conducted by Gallup was only one above this country's, and consider those Britons who are contemplating a new life in France.
To those of us left behind, the great drift south of restless Britons – mostly middle-class, mostly middle-aged – may look suspiciously like running away from life's interesting pressures to sink into a state of sybaritic mental stagnation, but it is certainly growing in popularity. In 2006, the emigration figure was about 400,000; it will probably pass the half-million mark for this year.
Spending time recently in one of those areas of France where the British are landing like starlings coming to roost, I sensed that this trend could not entirely be explained by the usual, well-worn clichés that have been deployed in recent times: England has become too crowded, noisy, rude and violent; a few hundred miles south, the sun shines more warmly; the food and the wine are better; the company more agreeable.
Something else is going on to provide many of those who settle in France with at least the illusion of happiness. Those who have settled there tend to take a rosy view of their adopted country. "The French have got the right idea about this," they say, before recounting a new area of superiority over poor old Britain – transport, family life, the health system. Ignoring France's social and political problems, they are as blindly in favour of all things French as previous generations were prejudiced in the opposite direction.
Expatriates feel at home there – more at home than they had felt in their own homeland – and the cause is not merely an improved quality of life, real or imagined. They are responding to a sense of community which the French have mysteriously managed to retain, at least in the parts of the countryside where foreigners tend to congregate. It is in the way they greet each other in the street or in the shops, in the attitude towards children and across generations generally.
That sense of muddling along together may be superficial and indeed has been seen to dissipate quickly when expatriates in France have tried to break into an enclosed profession like farming. But when political parties in Britain discuss how to make this country a happier place, it is worth remembering that such things start small – in local communities, villages and towns – but have a powerful effect. At a time when great institutions are crumbling, it is acts of everyday decency and kindness which help restore a nation's sense of itself.
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This writer almost got it right, in his explanations of why French life is 'better' than English life.
I came from Europe to live in Oz. It was a shock! AngloSaxon are so very different! I'm Francophone and have visited France many time and always felt I was at 'home' there.
AngloSaxon are different - very insular, my home is 'my castle' (whom are they defending it from???), don't you dare touch my family, let the young be with the young, etc etc.
We are not like that! We meddle in everyone's family business, tell people what to do/not to do, children talk to all ages, so do young people. We fight, make up, talk politics (God help us!) talk sex, and religion! If you like someone, you show it! If you don't you tell them. Hm! It's difficult to explain why french are different from AngloSaxons.
Posted by Nathalie | 01.10.08, 02:13 GMT
What is interesting is that there is no mention of how many of them will eventually return disillusioned and broke, or will end up stuck in worse situations than they left. Yes some very successful but many are no better or worse off than they were here and many of them are very unhappy and homesick. I've been to both Australia and New Zealand and was always very surprised by how many regretted their decisions, often made for quite nebulous reasons.
It would be interesting to see the true figures for returnees and after what period they've returned and why.
Posted by flipped | 30.09.08, 14:10 GMT
Virginia - as so many do on here, you are assuming I was being subjective and not recognising that I was offering a disinterested and objective observation.
It just seems to me that many are emigrating to get away from - crime, house prices, bad schools, yes - but also due to overcrowding and multiculturalism. New Zealand seems a fave destination amongst my contemporaries - but I can't comment on whether it's all white as I've never been there. The quality of life in the UK - and the manners - have declined every decade since the 1950s it seems. But 'community' can be very intrusive in a village for example, so I wouldn;t want that.
When I lived abroad I rarely associated with the Brits actually. And I agree people are very rude in the UK - but they are in France too of course! And the problem with lots of these places is they all depend on friends and family - or you can't get anything done!
Posted by Snap Dragon | 30.09.08, 11:56 GMT
SnapDragon, sounds to me like you are suffering a common ailment: jealousy of ethnic communities because they *have* community while the white British population merely sweep past each other with sidelong glances of distrust on their way to buy something.
I am white by the way. I have also seen the rudeness and selfishness of the white middle-class population, eg yesterday when an elderly couple getting on ahead of me on the train passed 5 business people with their bags on the seats next to them before finding somewhere to sit. These suits, the exact stereotype of those who want to move to France, are the ones causing problems as they pointedly (if a little guiltily) look out the window rather than show a little consideration to someone other than themselves. France is welcome to them.
Posted by Virginia | 30.09.08, 11:33 GMT
I have found that happiness ,or more importantly satisfaction and contentment is attained as a result of other activities. when you look for something you often find something else.the problem with searching for happiness itselfm makes one look inward upon themselves,when the need is to look outward, I have found my greatest contentment when making myself useful to others and other causes.
Posted by edward | 30.09.08, 10:49 GMT
One unspeakable you haven't mentioned: Brits emigrate to get away from the dreadful and frightening multiculturalism that has made them feel like aliens in their own land. Perhaps people in India or Africa would feel the same if 30% of their cities were non-white. We are all tribal. People just want to be with their own - in terms of values, culture, and yes, colour. That's the way it is. Shame PC mafia we suffer under won't allow anyonje to say it 0 bit then people never like the truth. Lies are better. More fun. More entertaining. More optimistic.
Posted by SnapDragon | 30.09.08, 08:33 GMT
I don't understand the comment about farming.
I have lived in France for 8 years and have searched for farms here for about 15 years. There are many foreign farmers here, not just British. Perhaps you hit it on the head when you said the "farming COMMUNITY". Just like in the UK it is just that and perhaps the succesfull expat farmers are those that really want to be part of this community and try accordingly.
Yours
Angevine
Posted by Angevine | 30.09.08, 00:29 GMT