When I was a young lad at Bristol Rovers, one of the senior lads called Lindsay Parsons grabbed me and growled: "Oi, are you a fly boy?"
I had just finished my first training session with the first team and was buzzing. I didn't have a clue what this fella was on about and, to put it bluntly, I shat myself.
"A fly boy," Parsons said. "Someone who will just fly on by and not do anything for his team-mates."
All I could do was mumble: "no I'm not a fly boy, Mr Parsons". He told me to sort my life out and walked off. I was a gibbering wreck.
The point is that it isn't managers who teach you how to be a player, it is the senior pros. If Carlos Tevez had refused to come on as a substitute while he was in our dressing room at Bristol, the likes of Parsons and Tony Pulis would have had him up against a wall.
You should never, ever act like that in football and it summed up what I think is wrong with the game. When I was a kid I had to knock on the door of the dressing room beforeI went in. That doesn't happen now. Back then, you had to be respectful and work your way up. All that respect has gone and it is reflected in our society as a whole.
It is nothing to do with other nationalities playing in our League. It doesn't matter whether they are English, Argentinian, wherever – it is to do with the age we are living in, young people's attitudes, and how the world is changing.
You used to become a footballer to see how good you could be. Now I reckon some are doing it to see how rich they can be. The manager used to be the person you always bowed down to. His authority used to be a scary thought. But for Tevez it isn't.
He has more money than he'll ever know what to do with and he knows how secure he is in life because of how good he is on a football pitch. The saddest thing is that other clubs will want him because he is brilliant. It is impossible not to acknowledge that. His workrate and how he plays are a great example on the pitch even though, off it, he is a shocking role model. A whole generation are now thinking "oh, it must be OK to refuse to come on when you're a sub".
Certain people are on such big money and have such massive egos that they think they are more important than the team and able to do what they like.
Can you imagine Sir Stanley Matthews, a footballing legend who graced the pitch at my club Blackpool, moaning about being subbed? I just can't see it myself.
It is an outrage that Tevez is loaded with money while people like Sir Stan, who deserved that wealth, never had it. Sir Stan would have appreciated and been grateful for that money and would have done good with it.
You only have to look at Jimmy Armfield and what he does for the community in Blackpool. Ask Jim what he thinks of Tevez and he'll tell you it is disgraceful at every level. I just hope the lad never plays for Manchester City again.
I've never heard of anyone else doing what for me is the ultimate sin. The club is what is important, not an individual. Players come and go, the club will be around forever and Mr Tevez and his like should remember that.
I hope that City have a wonderful season with plenty of trophies, and that Tevez isn't involved in any of it.
What he did the other night was akin to downing tools. But when he realised he was in breach of his contract and might not get paid, he came out with excuses and backtracked.
Well too late, mate. You have been petulant and football must not let you get away with it. If we do, it spells disaster. It's time to make a stand and fight back: we want players to get back to being decent, honest, hard-working people again.
Two subs and a lot of bother
Let me tell you about the moment which ruined my week. We were playing Coventry, 1-0 up with 12 minutes to go and scenting victory. Then my centre half gets injured and has to limp off. We get our substitute stripped off and hand the card to the fourth official. Coventry make a substitution at the same time... but theirs is allowed and ours isn't.
Then they score from the corner. I was fuming and, although I regret it now, I left my technical area and encroached on to the pitch. The ref sent me to the stand.
But I am only human and it was impossible not to react. I wasn't reallysurprised to be hit with a one-game touchline ban and a £2,000 fine by the FA because I was over the top. But how about the officials being held to account too? Any chance of that happening?
What annoys me most is that the fourth official gave me no explanation at the time. But half an hour after the game ended, when they'd all got back in their referee's room and had a chat, they claimed we had not got the card to them in time, a requirement before a substitution is made.
That made it even worse because I know we got our card in – I saw it. If the officials had apologised afterwards, then fine. But to accuse of us lying is wrong and untrue.
I have taken it up with the referees association through the LMA and I am due to have a meeting with Dave Allison, who is in charge of Football League officials. I love him to bits but he'll struggle to convince me we were dealt with fairly.
Keep it clean but Adebayor deserves what he gets today
It is a great weekend for derbies, the pick of which is Spurs-Arsenal today. It should be a cracker, not least because of the sight of Emmanuel Adebayor in white.
The lad will be in for what I'll politely call a warm reception. Normally I hate any kind of abuse towards players. Buying a ticket for a match doesn't entitle you to slaughter someone and if the supporters who do it acted in a similar way on the street they would be locked up.
But in this instance Adebayor only has himself to blame. How he must regret running the length of the pitch after scoring that goal for Manchester City to celebrate in front of the visiting Arsenal fans. He totally lost his head and he is probably embarrassed by what he did.
I just hope the visiting Arsenal fans don't take it too far today because for me it should always remain banter rather than all-out abuse.
I've always loved derbies because I grew up in Bristol where we have a special one between Rovers and City. In fact one time it ended up with me facing Father Christmas in court.
I was player-manager for Rovers at Ashton Gate and we equalised with virtually the last kick of the game. Some of the City fans ran on to the pitch to try and get me.
I have never run for a tunnel so fast in my life. The match was played just before Christmas and one of the supporters was dressed in a Santa Claus costume.
When the matter went to court, I was asked if I had felt threatened by a guy dressed as Father Christmas. I said: "No your Honour, because I've been a good boy this year."
As for Adebayor, the Arsenal fans should be careful about goading him too much because that lad is playing seriously well.
Harry Redknapp has made another ultra-shrewd signing.
Leaving Liverpool for Pool
You'll know the name Ince and I've been able to get hold of the next one off the production line.
Paul's lad Tom left Liverpool for us during the summer in the hope of first-team football, which shows guts in itself.
He is only 18 but was terrific on his full debut for us last weekend. He is still a little raw, and needs to shoot more, but I am quite excited by what I see in him.
His old man should be very proud and I reckon we will be hearing a lot more of the name Ince in the next few years.
And I'm delighted to have brought in another Liverpool player, Jonjo Shelvey, this week. He has joined us on loan for three months and it brings an end to a long chase because I've been after him since the summer.
The lad has pace, skill and an eye for a goal from midfield and I've been afan of his ever since he burst on tothe scene at Charlton Athletic as a 16-year-old.
He's only 19 now but there was a reason Liverpool signed him – and I'm hoping he will show Blackpool fans just exactly what that reason is over the next few weeks.Reuse content