Fathers everywhere will know the feeling. After the birth of your children you want to do all you can to help, but you get the impression that your loved ones might cope better if you were not hanging around. They might even prefer you to go back to work.
That could explain why Roger Federer is here competing at the Rome Masters rather than changing nappies back home in Switzerland, where his wife Mirka gave birth last week to their second set of twins, Leo and Lenny.
Speaking in public for the first time since their arrival, Federer explained on Tuesday how he had come to play here, having made a late withdrawal from last week’s Madrid Masters. “Everything happened all of a sudden last Tuesday evening,” he said. “That was a bit of a surprise. I thought it was going to be a few days or maybe a week or so down the road.
“The fact that the twins arrived on Tuesday gave me a better chance to play here. I spoke to my team and I spoke to Mirka. I asked all of them what they thought I should do and they all said that I should come and play here.”
He added with a smile: “I was like: ‘OK, if you don’t want me around, I’ll go away!’ Clearly it was hard leaving the family, but I’ll see them again very shortly and it’s all good. Things went well, the boys are healthy and Mirka is good too. It’s a great time in our lives right now.”
Federer’s first twins, Myla Rose and Charlene Riva, who will be five in July, have frequently joined their parents on tour. The former world No 1 sees no reason why Leo and Lenny should not join the travelling party.
“This time around at least we know how to handle kids on the road,” Federer said. “That was quite a challenge first time, especially after the girls were one year old and became much more mobile, walking around a lot. You have to think about hotel rooms, where you go in cities, how you fly, how you try to avoid transit.
“It’s not super difficult, but we know our way around now and how it’s done. I am aware it’s going to be a lot of work, but at the same time I know what I am getting into. It’s something I’m very much looking forward to.”
Asked if he would be looking for four babysitters, Federer said: “My wife does a lot of the work – as much as she can. I try to help. Our parents help a lot as well. My team members sometimes tag along as well. But clearly we also need some help on the road so Mirka can have an opportunity to maybe sleep in a little bit or come to watch one of my matches.
“I’m looking forward to life on tour with the family. There will be a long time without travelling after [my] tennis [career] is over, so I’m looking forward to the next couple of years now.”
Federer, who meets France’s Jérémy Chardy in his opening match on Wednesday, said that getting back on court was “the least important thing” in his life right now. Nevertheless, he said he had worked hard during a training block following last month’s Monte Carlo Masters – which was his last tournament – and wanted to play here to keep in the swing of competition.
“I’ve had such a good start to the season and I just want to keep the momentum on my side,” he said. “I didn’t want too big a break. I’m happy that I have an opportunity to play here. It doesn’t matter whether I play one match here or five. I hope I can win my first match, but at the moment I have totally different priorities.”