Had I followed my instincts instead of the advice and opinions of the experts I would have saved myself and my family untold damage and my daughter would not still be suffering from post-traumatic stress syndrome five years later.
A marriage in difficulties can only be worth rescuing if all parties involved are equally willing to work at solving the problems. To condemn children as well as partners to a living hell, because the alternative is, in the short term, disruptive, is a greater evil, with consequences reaching into future generations.
The experts should sample a bit of real life before they pontificate so dangerously. Believe it or not people do listen to them and - worse still - think they know best. Heaven help us.