Lack of communication and sex among most common reasons why new parents break up, poll claims

One fifth of participants say they parted ways in the first year of their child’s birth

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A lack of communication and a dwindling sex life are among the most common reasons new parents break up, a survey has claimed.

A poll of 2,000 parents found one third of respondents’ relationships suffer serious problems in the months following a child’s birth, with one fifth ending things during the first year.

More than one in 10 respondents had a trial separation in the 12 months after becoming parents but later got back together.

Break-ups most commonly took place at the six-month mark.

One in three of the participants who ended things said a “complete lack of communication” was the main reason, while three in 10 said it was because their sex life slowed down.

However, 23 per cent blamed the break-up on one party cheating within 12 months of the birth.

Regular arguments, one partner being less involved in the care of the baby and having to adjust to the new responsibility also caused irreparable problems, according to the survey by ChannelMum.com and The Baby Show.

However, one quarter of couples admitted they had problems with their relationship before the baby came along, which became worse after the birth.

Siobhan Freegard, founder of parenting site ChannelMum.com, said: “Forget the seven-year itch – it’s six months of sleepless nights that are most likely to prise apart new parents.

“Sleepless nights, less time for intimacy and added responsibility can test even the most committed relationships.”

The poll revealed more than six in 10 respondents said they were not prepared for the huge impact having a baby would have on their life.

Friends and family were helpful additional support for 23 per cent.

Sharing night-feeds, making time for regular sex, having time-out with friends and regular date nights were other methods used to maintain a happy relationship.

Zoë Bonser, show director at The Baby Show, added: “While it is a wonderful period, there’s no doubt about it, it’s stressful with the change in sleep patterns, routines and responsibilities and getting used to there being a third person around that you have to care for all the time.

“The most important thing is to keep talking and recognise how you’re both feeling and ensure you make time for each other, as well as your baby.

“Because this is such a huge issue we have joined forces with ChannelMum.com to offer visitors at this weekend’s Baby Show advice on how to prepare for and overcome the challenges that parenthood brings.”

SWNS