Divorce can be good for children because it helps teach them how to “struggle”, actress Kate Winslet has said in an interview.
Winslet, 39, who has three children, told this week’s edition of Harper’s Bazaar UK magazine that she tried to turn negative experiences into positive ones and would not want to change anything in her personal life, such as her two divorces.
“I think it’s very important to teach your children to struggle on some level,” she said.
“I would honestly say that I wouldn’t change a thing. Even all the bad bits.
“It doesn’t matter how ***** times have been, they all matter, because those things shape who you are. And if you don’t like who you are, well, then you’re ****** really, aren’t you?”
She also attacked the idea that women have to regain their previous physique shortly after giving birth.
“There’s a big part of me – now, more than ever before – that feels a sense of responsibility for how other women view themselves,” she said.
“Take having the baby, for instance. Have I actively been on a diet to lose my baby weight? No, I haven’t. I genuinely bloody haven’t. I so didn’t want to be one of those ‘Oh, wow, she’s back in shape after 12 weeks’ women. When I read things like that, I just think, ‘Oh, for ----’s sake, that’s actually impossible.’
“Life is just too short to be spending time focusing on things like that.”
Instead Winslet said she wanted to “keep my health and my sanity and be well fed and happy”.
“I was nowhere near my pre-pregnancy shape when Bear was 12 weeks old – I was breastfeeding, apart from anything else, and hungry all the time – and nor would I have wanted to be,” she said.
“And, do you know what? My body will never go back to what it was, and I wouldn’t expect it to after three babies.”
The Oscar-winning actress has a 14-year-old daughter from her first marriage, an 11-year-old son from her second and another young son from her current marriage to Ned RocknRoll, nephew of Sir Richard Branson.
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