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Alan Pardew will use a life coach to help him prevent a repeat of his infamous head-butt on Hull City's David Meyler as he embarks on a seven-match ban which he hopes will be a "period of redemption".
Although an unnamed first-team squad member placed a pair of boxing gloves on his desk soon after, Pardew now has the serious task of rebuilding his reputation after earning a £160,000 fine, a three-game stadium ban and a four-game touchline ban for his actions at the KC Stadium on 1 March.
To that end he will seek professional help to deal with his temper and the unique pressure of managing Newcastle United. This was a key part of the 52-year-old's defence when he faced the independent commission that handed out the sanctions at Wembley on Tuesday.
He will look to use the management counselling skills of a life coach following helpful advice from various people. "I've spoken to a few CEOs who have management counselling in terms of how to do their job better," he said. "I have spoken to [League Managers Association chief executive] Richard Bevan who has been a great help in terms of finding someone who is going to work for me, and just bounce ideas off.
"The big question for me when this incident happened is, 'How am I going to be a better manager out of it?' I don't want to be a worse manager, I don't want to lose that drive and passion that I have, but I am going to channel it a little bit better.
Show all 22 1 /22Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Alan Pardew v David Meyler The outspoken Newcastle manager was confronted by the Hull midfielder during their Premier League encounter. When Meyler pushed Pardew, you would have hoped that Pardew would rise above his actions. Wrong. Instead, Pardew aimed a headbutt, albeit a weak one, towards the Irishman, and he quickly found himself in the stands with Meyler receiving a booking. Pardew immediately apologised after the match, but it was too little, too late. He was hit with a £100,000 fine by the club immediately after.
Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Alan Pardew v Manuel Pellegrini Alan Pardew was given a firm "reminder of his responsibilities" from the FA after he called Manuel Pellegrini a f****** old c*** in the Premier League match between Manchester City and Newcastle. Pardew again apologised after, but it looks like he didn't learn from his behaviour.
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Paolo Di Canio v Leon Clarke Paolo Di Canio clashed with his own player during his time with Swindon Town after the League Cup defeat to Southampton. Having initially begun arguing with fitness coach Claudio Donatelli, Di Canio attempted to defuse the situation, but it quickly escalated. "Fortunately, he’s out now, even if he’s under contract," said Di Canio afterwards. "He’s never going to play with my team again, never. He doesn’t deserve to wear the Swindon Town shirt in front of the fans."
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Paul-Ince.jpg Former Blackpool manager Paul Ince was slapped with a five-match stadium ban after he kicked a bottle during the Championship match against Bournemouth, hitting a female fan in the stands. Not content with leaving it there, he then launched a foul-mouthed attack on fourth official Mark Pottage, shoving him before shouting aggressively "I'll knock you f****** out you c***"
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Roberto Mancini v Paul Lambert During Manchester City's surprise Capital One Cup defeat at home to Aston Villa, Roberto Mancini entered into an exchange with Paul Lambert when the latter seemed to object to the City manager questioning the fourth official over why a yellow card had not been shown. After the match, Mancini said: 'I am tired of these managers. I did not say anything to him, I only asked if it was a yellow card and he comes over [to argue] every time. I am tired of this, I am very tired.' Mancini then went on to warn others about such behaviour. 'Some managers had better shut up because I was only asking the fourth official because I thought the referee had left his yellow card in the dressing room. I don't like this behaviour. When they go to Old Trafford, they say nothing.'
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Alan Pardew v Peter Kirkup Alan Pardew thought the ball had gone out of play during his side's match against Tottenham, but when it wasn't given, the Newcastle manager went on the attack and shoved the linesman Peter Kirkup. An apologetic Pardew was immediately sent to the stands and was later hit with a two match ban and £20,000 fine.
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Delio Rossi v Adem Ljajic Now, when managers lose it on the touchline they tend to go on the attack in the direction of the opposition, but not in Italy. When Fiorentina coach Delio Rossi decided to haul Adem Ljajic off after just 32 minutes, the midfielder voiced his dissent. In response, Rossi decided to put his own anger into action and preceded to attack his own player. "In a few seconds months of stress came out," Fiorentina president Andrea Della Valle said, in a statement revealing Rossi had been sacked.
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Alex Ferguson v Roberto Mancini It was the biggest game of the season - Manchester City v Manchester United, a derby match that would decide the title. So when things weren't going his way, it was no surprise to see Ferguson going on the offensive. The United manager appeared to accuse Mancini of trying to influence officials, saying after the match "Mancini was badgering the ref and the fourth official all game". After the match, Mancini laughed off Ferguson's gripe about trying to influence referees, sarcastically saying: "And him? No? He never talks with the referee, no, never."
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Mark Hughes v Martin Jol Agitated by the fact his QPR side had just been beaten by former team Fulham, Mark Hughes didn't take kindly to Martin Jol's conciliatory pat on the back of head. The Welshman accused his Dutch counterpart of being 'slightly patronising', and shoved his hand away.
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Jose Mourinho v Tito Vilanova At the start of the season during the Spanish Super Cup between Real Madrid and Barcelona, Real boss Jose Mourinho poked Barca assistant (and future manager) Tito Vilanova in the eye. The incident occurred as the two teams came together for their traditional 'El Clasico' melee. After the incident, Mourinho's spokesman said "Jose will not ask for forgiveness. He firmly believes that he was defending the interests of Real Madrid."
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Arsene Wenger v Kenny Dalglish Arsene Wenger and Kenny Dalglish were involved in a colourful exchange at the end of the 2010/11 season. A thrilling finale to the match between Arsenal and Liverpool at the Emirates that saw two injury time penalties awarded and converted was enough to raise the temperature on the touchline. Wenger was furious that the visitors had been awarded a penalty in the 13th minute of stoppage time, leading to the altercation with Dalglish as referee Andre Marriner finally blew his whistle for full-time. TV footage seemed to show Dalglish saying "Piss off" to Wenger, but the pair later shook hands and after the game the Liverpool manager dismissed the row.
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Roberto Mancini v David Moyes Manchester City manager Roberto Mancini was sent to the stands along with Everton counterpart David Moyes after a touchline scuffle in 2010. Fourth official Howard Webb had to separate the two managers after Mancini took exception to Moyes picking up the ball, an action the Italian interpreted as time-wasting.
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Arsene Wenger v Alex Ferguson The 17-year rivalry between the pair was at times laid bare for all to see on the touchline, with fierce words clearly exchanged between the pair. The biggest bust up came in October 2004, when United ended Arsenal's 49-game unbeaten run in the league. The pair waited until they got down the tunnel, where earnest discussions took place before pizza and soup were thrown at Sir Alex.
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Arsene Wenger v Mark Hughes For such a seemingly mild mannered character as Wenger, he's no stranger to touchline shenanigans. A couple of seasons ago, The Professor committed the worst managerial crime of all - the handshake refusal. As traditional as the Royal Family, the unwritten rule is that managers shake hands whatever has transpired on the pitch. Should the teams have brawled their way through the game and the managers exchanged insults of the highest calibre - when the whistle blows, all is forgiven with a simple handshake. But following Arsenal's 3-0 defeat to Manchester City, Wenger refused the niceties. The two had been joshing throughout the match, and Wenger decided he'd had enough. He was labelled a bad loser by anyone who cared to voice their opinion but the Frenchman was unrepentant.
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Alex Ferguson v Wally Downes A couple of years back Fergie was getting a bit jittery on the Madejski Stadium touchline. With United holding a 1-0 lead over Reading, his team looked in danger of letting it slip - so when the fourth official signalled four-minutes of injury time, Fergie was fuming. And it was Reading's assistant manager Wally Downes who got burnt by the steam emanating from the Scotsman's ears. The two were involved in a fierce exchange before Ferguson, possibly taking into account the size of Downes, directed his frustration at the Reading supporters instead. It was claimed the United manager made a none-too-charming gesture in their direction. Yet after the match Fergie and Downes settled matters over that other tradition, the post match bottle of wine.
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Rafael Benitez v Paul Jewell In his later days at Liverpool, many felt Rafael Benitez was losing the plot; but even back in 2007 the Liverpool manager was showing he didn't always follow the script. A clash on the pitch between Jay McEveley and Andriy Voronin led to Benitez and the Derby manager Paul Jewell having their own clash on the touchline. Both saw the coming together differently (don't they always) and before exchanging their views, squared up to one another before the match officials struggled to calm the situation down.
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Phil Brown v Joe Kinnear Brown and Kinnear have since moved on to pastures new, but when in charge of Hull and Newcastle respectively, they were only too willing to fight for their team - and at times, quite literally. It took the outspoken pair just 24 minutes of the match before they went head-to-head in this 2009 FA Cup tie at St James' Park. A tackle by Newcastle's Fabricio Coloccini on Hull striker Daniel Cousin led to the two managers going eye-to-eye before the referee sent them to the stands. After the incident Kinnear said: "I don't know why I was sent off, we just exchanged words. He came across and had plenty to say and I answered him."
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Nigel Clough v Billy Davies A rather bizarre incident occurred on the touchline a couple of seasons ago in a match between Nottingham Forest and Derby. Towards the end of the Midlands derby, players and coaches got involved in a melee, including the two managers. After the incident Davies accused Clough of kneeing him in the back of the leg - and reported as such to the League Managers' Association. Clough later claimed any contact must have been accidental: "It was just a melee with arms and legs flying," Clough said. "There were that many bodies in there."
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Arsene Wenger v Alan Pardew Arsene again... this time against Alan Pardew when the English manager was in charge of West Ham. Pardew celebrated a winning goal from the Hammers rather zealously, which infuriated Wenger. The Frenchman jumped up and pushed his counterpart. And then, worst of all, refused the handshake. Wenger was fined £10,000 by the FA yet Pardew admitted he might have been a little antagonising: "It was nothing personal, I was celebrating the goal. Arsene seemed to have a problem with that, probably rightly."
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Mark Hughes v Gareth Southgate Even when Hughes was in charge of Blackburn Rovers, he wasn't afraid to offend his counterparts. During a match against Middlesbrough in 2008, Jeremie Aliadiere went down for treatment, something Sparky thought was blatant time wasting. So he punted the ball at the striker as he lay on the deck. Gareth Southgate jumped up to complain while his assistant Colin Cooper got up in Hughes' grill. Hughes said afterwards: "The team was flat, the crowd was flat - it was probably the best thing I did."
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Arsene Wenger v Martin Jol And to conclude our countdown, it's Arsene Wenger, again. The Arsenal boss just couldn't contain himself when he saw his side go a goal down to arch-rivals Tottenham in 2006. Two Arsenal players were on the deck, but Jol insisted his team play on. They did just that and when Robbie Keane netted for Spurs, Wenger exploded. He stormed over to his Dutch counterpart and the pair went toe-to-toe before they were separated by the officials.
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Alan Pardew headbutt: When football managers attack Brian Clough v pitch invaders Brian Clough took no prisoners when two pitch invaders interrupted his Nottingham Forest side's League Cup quarter-final with QPR in February 1989. Clough was charged with bringing the game into disrepute, fined £5,000 and banned from the touchline of all Football League grounds for the rest of the season. He apologised, and told the fans to kiss him to show the apology has been accepted.
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"I was disappointed in myself. I'm an experienced manager and I shouldn't have got in that situation. I've had a lot of games, I think this might be my 200th Premier League game, and I've been involved in lots of situations and never got myself in that predicament. It's something you look at and go, 'That can't happen again'. Maybe it's a period of redemption for myself."
Pardew was pilloried for the clash with Meyler and he admitted the immediate period afterwards was difficult. "I had lots of messages of support, not that I deserved sympathy but it was still nice to have that support, from colleagues in the game and from friends and family," he added.
"I had a pair of boxing gloves in my changing room. That was a typical training ground reaction. It was gallows humour, but when all is said and done, it is not a laughing matter."
He will address his players in the team hotel in London tomorrow, shortly before they board the coach to Craven Cottage. He will then watch the game with Fulham in a room with a club sport's analyst but there will be no contact with anyone from Newcastle until he links up with them after the game. His assistant John Carver will be in charge of the team.
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