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Woman shares texts from man she met on train and people think it's just like Netflix series You

The man's intrusive behaviour is similar to the stalker character on the Netflix series

Chelsea Ritschel
Wednesday 16 January 2019 16:18 GMT
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People are comparing the situation to the plot of Netflix's You (Netflix)
People are comparing the situation to the plot of Netflix's You (Netflix)

A 20-year-old woman received a text message from a man she met briefly on the train - and people are comparing the situation to the popular stalker Netflix series You.

According to Lynda Lorraine from Bromsgrove, England, who shared the conversation on Twitter, she’d briefly spoken to the man, but the pair did not exchange numbers or social media details.

However, a week later, the man who identified himself as Josh managed to find her number - by searching for her social media profiles and finding mutual friends to ask.

“Got your number from one of your friends hope you don’t mind,” he wrote after introducing himself.

Lorraine responded by admitting this is “kinda creepy,” before asking how he’d found her number and her friends.

After revealing that he’d searched her on Instagram and then asked friends about her, Lorraine replied: “I’m not even being funny but don’t you think it’s less creepy to just follow me on Instagram instead of asking around for my number?”

Despite her clear discomfort, Josh continued to text her, telling her he would tell her on Thursday during a date who gave him her number - to which Lorraine replied: “Most definitely not.”

“Because I’m not really flattered by this,” she explained further. “It’s weird and invasive. And there’s no way you can decide for me that I’m going out with you.”

According to Lorraine, who spoke to BuzzFeed, she eventually blocked his number - but after her tweet went viral, many people suggested she also report him to authorities.

In addition to fear for Lorraine’s safety, people also expressed outrage over the man’s persistence - and compared him to Penn Badgley’s You character Joe Goldberg, who stalks a woman he met at his bookstore on social media and in person, to learn more about her.

“This sounds like Joe,” one person wrote, while another responded: “*Cough* Joe Goldberg from You *Cough*."

“This ticks all the creepy boxes,” someone else responded. “This intrusive behaviour is entirely inappropriate showing no respect for boundaries you have put into place. If you wanted everybody able to contact you, you’d have made that possible.”

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