Get the most out of online dating
Wednesday 16 March 2011
Many people think that online dating is a fail-proof, fast-track way to finding the person of your dreams. Put your profile up, sit back and wait to be inundated with messages from hundreds of attractive singles. However, it really is no different to any other ‘conventional’ way of meeting a new partner in that it requires time, effort and attention. So to make sure you get the most from your time on Independent Dating we’ve put together a few essential tips.
Get your profile right
Firstly, make sure you actually have a written profile and secondly make sure if reflects the real you. The more you include in your profile, the easier it will be for someone to write you an introductory email because you've given them something to ask you about.
Independent Dating’s top tip: Ask a friend to help. They will find it easy to talk about all of your great qualities and point out exactly why anyone would be lucky to get to know you.
Familiar with the phrase ‘you get out what you put in’? Well it’s never been truer for online dating. Don’t be fooled into thinking that your profile alone is enough to get people flocking. Don’t get me wrong, if your profile is completed and looking good people will no doubt contact you. However, don’t expect this to be the case for everyone. So if anyone catches your eye, get in there and tell them with an email that stands out from the rest.
Independent Dating’s top tip: Reference something from their profile, its shows you've read it.
If you go into online dating feeling ashamed of embarrassed like it’s your last resort, people will pick up on your negative vibes. Avoid statements like 'I’m not sure why I’m here' or ‘I’m new to this online dating thing' because firstly, it sounds negative and secondly it doesn’t say anything about you. Remember, people are drawn to positive people so drop the negativity.
Independent Dating’s top tip: Be confident and smile, because when you smile you automatically have a positive attitude.
Sometimes you will receive messages from people you’re not really interested in; it’s all part of the dating game. Just remember that like you, they are trying to find a suitable match too. So don’t ignore them or be rude, just send a simple message saying thanks but no thanks. They will appreciate your honesty and ultimately continue with their search. If the shoe was the on the other foot you’d probably appreciate the same.
Independent Dating’s top tip: Keep your message short and sweet and wish them luck in their continued search.
Remember that the whole idea of online dating is that eventually you do actually leave your computer and meet people. Enjoy the emailing but don't let it go on for weeks and weeks without arranging to meet. You need to make sure that the spark is not just in your imagination and that your online romance can stand the test of real life chemistry. So if you like someone and you’re confident you get on, ask them if they want to meet up.
Independent Dating’s top tip: Be safe! Always tell someone who you are meeting and where you are going.
It’s unlikely you’ll find success over night even if you do do everything by the book. Dating is a process which takes time whether that’s on or offline.
Why not try putting these tips to good use on Independent Dating today!
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