Where someone lives, where they’re from and what they do for a living are three of the most important pieces of information people want to find out when getting to know someone new, whether a potential romantic partner or friend, virtually or in real life.
But it turns out if you’re using a dating app in the hope of starting a new relationship, one of those questions should be avoided.
Whether Tinder, Bumble or Happn is your app of choice, in the initial stages of chatting, the one question you should never ask your match is what they do for a living.
Whilst it might seem an obvious question - we do spend most of our time at work, after all - being too eager to discover a potential suitor’s job can create a negative first impression.
"A lot of feedback that both men and women in our dating courses give us is that it's almost like if you were to ask, 'so how much money do you make?' 'So how well educated are you?'" Myka Meier, Founder of Beaumont Etiquette, told Cosmopolitan.
What’s more, it could also result in your match answering without asking you anything back, according to Meier. And as anyone who’s used dating apps will be able to attest, that can lead to an awkward stalemate.
Where tech meets sex
Where tech meets sex
1/6 Lovely - the smart sex toy that has been dubbed 'the Fitbit for your penis'
Tired of not being able to track the average speed of your thrusts during sex? Well, your problems will be solved with the Lovely - a sex toy that's been touted as 'the fitbit, but for your penis'. The lovely is a stretchy silicone ring, which attaches around the base of your penis. It also has a vibrator tucked inside, which stimulates both sexual partners. So far, so Ann Summers
2/6 The 'sex selfie stick' lets you FaceTime the inside of a vagina
Further proof that the sole goal of mankind is now to take selfies absolutely everywhere possible, a vibrator that can video capture an orgasm from its epicentre has been invented. The nightmarish love child of an endoscopy and a vibrator, the 'Svakom Gaga Camera Vibrator' allows for a new level of explicitness in amateur sex tapes. Footage taken can be uploaded to PC or smartphone and the device also syncs with FaceTime, offering the unprecedented opportunity to be on the phone with someone's genitals
3/6 Pornhub turns masturbation into energy
With an estimated 41 million people visiting it every day, Pornhub figured it might be time to channel all that furious fapping into something more useful than brief, boredom-relieving ecstasy. "Every day, millions of hours of adult content are consumed online, wasting energy in the process and hurting the environment," the porn site writes on a dedicated website. "At Pornhub we decided to do something about it. Introducing The Wankband: The first wearable tech that allows you to love the planet by loving yourself." The band creates power when moved in an up and down motion, with a kinetic charger inside storing the clean (albeit slightly dirty) energy generated. It can then be connected via USB to smartphones, tablets and computers, powering them with 100% sustainable energy
4/6 Men have begun 3D-printing their penises
"What would happen if I put my penis in it?" It's a question man has been asking ever since it discovered it was useful in certain situations for procreation thousands of years ago. But now it has reached an absurd and mildly dystopian conclusion: 3D-printed d*ck pics. The means? A handheld 3D scanner such as Fuel3D's Scanify above. The method? By pointing it at *any* object and capturing it three-dimensionally. The reason? Who can say
5/6 Japanese developer creates virtual breast-squeezing 'game' for the Oculus Rift
Although gadgets like the Oculus Rift and Samsung Gear VR are promising to take virtual reality into the mainstream, there are still plenty of virtual ‘experiences’ that we hope never make it out the basements they were dreamt up in. Exhibit a: a ‘game’ which lets users squeeze a virtual woman’s breasts who responds by squealing in disgust and covering up her chest. That’s right, the guy who made this didn’t even want to fabricate a positive sexual experience – instead he went for virtual abuse. The set-up works like this. The user dons an Oculus Rift to enter the virtual world populated by an anime character, he can then squeeze a novelty mouse pad with foam breasts with pressure sensors inside them. This hooked up to the virtual character who reacts accordingly
6/6 Have sex with your iPad thanks to the new sex toy no-one asked for
Many of us have become inseparable from our smartphones and tablets, but if you're looking to take the relationship to the next step and actually 'f*ck your iPad', sex toy brand Fleshlight has now made this possible for some reason. The company launched Fleshlight Launchpad, which allows users of their flashlight-shaped, vagina-like toy to plug it into the back of an iPad in order to 'fully immerse themselves' in whatever they're watching. The gadget "enables the user to enjoy the full Fleshlight experience while enjoying content or communicating live with a friend via applications like Facetime or Skype," makers Interactive Life Forms claim, with its trailer showing a man making use of one while video-chatting with his girlfriend
It’s hard to deny that our jobs say a lot about us as people, and most of us would be interested to know what a match does for a living, but Manhattan-based Meier believes we’d fare better by discussing hobbies and interests first. That way, you can work out if you have chemistry without coming across as “opportunistic”.
Most people with any experience of dating apps will agree that it’s a minefield - what woos one person will just as easily put off another. But with this latest nugget from Meier, you may just be one swipe closer to finding your true love.Reuse content