Israeli beauty queen uses own ordeal to speak out about rape
Former beauty queen Linor Abargil became an ambassador against sexual violence after was violently raped as a teenager
In 1998, the beautiful 18-year-old Israeli, Linor Abargil, was crowned Miss World – but the joy of her success was overshadowed by the violent rape she had been subjected to just six weeks earlier.
However, the brave Ms Abargil refused to keep quiet, pressing charges against her attacker and later testifying at a trial that saw him sent to prison for 16 years.
Accepting the crown with tears streaming down her face, the young woman decided to make the most of her public platform, speaking out about her ordeal to inspire other Israeli women to break their own silence.
In doing so, she became a national symbol, who helped to destigmatize rape in the country.
Today, the 34-year-old mother of three's crusade against sexual violence is going global, thanks to an international speaking tour and new documentary, Brave Miss World, in which she details her suffering and speaks to dozens of other victims, many of whom shared their tales of terror for the first time.
"If you go through something very bad or very hard, the only pill you can take is to tell, to take it out of your system. Because if you don't, it is like a tumour "it becomes bigger and bigger until it kills you," she told The Associated Press this week, shortly after returning from a visit to India.
"I feel that I have this privilege to really help other women to open up."
In Brave Miss World, director Cecilia Peck follows Ms Abargil's journey from teenage rape victim, to outspoken lawyer and activist, to wife and mother. Ms Peck shows how the former beauty queen discovered a newfound comfort in her Jewish faith.
Interviews with Ms Abargil's parents, her husband and even a former boyfriend shed light on how the rape altered her life but also how her strength helped transform her into an unlikely ambassador.
In the documentary, which was shot over four years, Ms Abargil listens to the stories of rape victims ranging from American college students, to young South African girls, to Hollywood celebrities like Fran Drescher and Joan Collins " who disclosed for the first time that she married the man who raped her.
"There is something about Linor that gives credibility to rape survivors. They know that they will be believed, it helps relieve that burden of shame," said Ms Peck, whose previous work includes Shut Up and Sing, a documentary about the US country singers the Dixie Chicks.
The daughter of legendary actor Gregory Peck, Ms Peck said the film's name was a subtle allusion to Aldous Huxley's famous novel Brave New World, in which the government tried to control even citizens' sex lives.
She said the film's website has become a place for victims to speak out. More than 300,000 people have already visited the site, with many writing about the abuse they experienced. Hundreds of emails arrive each day, she said.
Ms Abargil said she was drawn to the project since she was not the type of person to just seek "justice for myself and then walk away." As a public figure she felt she had a responsibility to break the taboo around rape and give other women the courage to talk about it.
But her decision did not come without a personal toll. "It was one of the hardest things I ever did in my life," she said.
"A lot of the time I didn't have anything to say to the things that I heard."
Ms Abargil's own story makes for very difficult reading. She was in Milan, Italy, in October 1998 auditioning for modelling jobs when she asked Uri Shlomo Nur, an Egyptian-born Israeli who ran a travel agency there, to arrange a flight back to Israel.
Nur told her there were no flights from Milan to Israel and offered to drive her to Rome where she could catch a plane. During the ride, Nur pulled the car into a thicket, stabbed her, strangled her and raped her at knifepoint. She managed to escape and call her mother.
"Linor said to me: 'He tricked me, he raped me, he tried to kill me,"' her mother tearfully recalled in the film.
She told her daughter not to shower, to report the rape to police and give DNA evidence at a hospital. That helped convict Nur in Israel. Still in prison, he is slated for release this summer.
Throughout the trial, Ms Abargil refused to have her name concealed or her face or voice distorted in media coverage, insisting that there was no reason to be ashamed.
Miriam Schler, the director of the Tel Aviv rape crisis centre, said Ms Abargil gave rape a "human face" and her trial spurred a big boost in the number of women who sought help.
"She gives women legitimacy to come forward, to say 'I am not crazy, it's not my fault, if people believe her maybe someone will believe me,"' Ms Schler said.
Ms Abargil went on to work as a model and an actress before becoming a criminal lawyer. Newly religious, the bikinis and low-cut gowns of her past have been replaced by more modest outfits and a head covering befit of an Orthodox Jewish woman.
She said the "stupid crown" she won for Miss World would have meant nothing to her were it not for the platform it provided to speak out.
"I think I have a lot of very good things to say to women around the world," she said, as her four-month-old daughter cooed in the background. "I realized it (the rape) doesn't define me, it can't define me."
Additional reporting by Associated Press
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