Letter: Do we need a 'social compass' to plot sexual signals?

Sir: I agree with and applaud Angela Lambert's views on responsibilities in so-called 'date-rape'. But if a champagne-quaffing solicitor can get his sexual message-wires so badly crossed, how is an inexperienced and under-confident teenager to handle such an encounter?

It is my ambition to produce a leaflet, suggesting at least 10 graceful ways of saying no (in advance) without causing anyone loss of face or hurt feelings. This never seems to get taught. Ms Lambert's two suggestions can be modifed to suit the purses and parlance of rural Lincolnshire - can anyone suggest any others? I'm not thinking entirely about the girls, either.

Yours faithfully,

C. M. DRAKE

Louth, Lincolnshire

The writer is a family planning nurse.