Virginia Ironside: Next week's dilemma

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Dear Virginia,

My wife died a year ago. She was only 35 and left me with our two young children. About six months after her death, I met a wonderful woman of 40, who has children of her own, and we decided to live together. I can never forget my wife, but life with my new love is amazing and the children all seem extremely happy. We have planned to marry in the autumn, but my wife's parents are openly hostile. They say it's "too soon" and won't come. What can I do?

Yours sincerely, Ben

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