I'm now 40, and, apart from falling for a few really dreadful men in the past, have never had a good relationship.
I am stuck in a boring job, and my only interest is in doing a PhD in my spare time. I work all hours. I had a good upbringing, but don't speak to my siblings because I don't get on with them. I have very few friends and am very unhappy. I have been to several counsellors but find them all either Pollyanna-ish or hostile. I only wish I could recapture the passion, joy and enthusiasm I had as a child. Can you help?
Yours sincerely, Karen
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