Mental strength isn't usually reflected in what you do. It's more often seen in what you don't do.
In her book “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do,” Amy Morin writes that developing mental strength is a “three-pronged approach.” It's about controlling your thoughts, behaviors, and emotions.
12 things mentally strong people don't do
1. They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves
Self-pity is destructive and creates feelings of negativity. The goal is swap self-pity with gratitude.
2. They maintain a strong grip on their power
Stand up for yourself. It's important that you keep track of your goals and work toward them.
3. They don't shy away from change
Making changes can be frightening, but shying away from them prevents growth and lets others pass you by.
4. They don't focus on things they can't control
Trying to be in control of everything is likely a response to anxiety. Instead, focus on what you can do.
5. They don't worry about pleasing everyone
You will be stronger and more confident if you stop judging yourself by what you believe other people think of you.
6. They don't spend time dwelling on the past
It doesn't solve anything, and can lead to depression. Instead, enjoy the present and plan for the future.
7. They don't make the same mistake over and over
Accept responsibility for the mistake and create a thoughtful, written plan to avoid the same mistake in the future.
8. They don't resent other people's success
Even if you become successfull, you may never be content if you're always focusing on others.
9. They don't give up after the first failure
Success isn't always immediate, and failure is almost always an obstacle you will have to overcome. Learn to bounce back.
10. They don't fear spending time alone
Solitude can help you focus on growth by increasing productivity, empathy and creativity.
11. They don't feel the world owes them anything
The key is to focus on your efforts, accept criticism, acknowledge your flaws, and don't keep score
12. They don't expect immediate results
Relentlessly work towards your long-term goals, measure your progress, and look at the bigger picture.
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