For parents who experience the pain of a miscarriage, it can be difficult to know how to move on and where to seek solace and comfort.
However one Japanese tradition is starting to spread in the west, helping couples to cope after their heartbreak.
In Japan, some women find comfort in Jizo statues which line temples and cemeteries across the country. The statues are believed to be protectors of children and unborn babies in traditional Japanese Buddhist teachings. It is believed that as the babies did not have the chance to build up good karma on earth, Jizo helps smuggle the children into the afterlife in the sleeves of his robe.
The statues are often dressed in warm clothes in the hope that they will do the same for their unborn child.
Now the practice is spreading further afield than Japan, with some women in the US explaining how they found their Jizo statues comforting after experiencing the loss of an unborn child.
Writer Angela Elson wrote in the New York Times about how her Jizo had brought her comfort after miscarrying her child at 10 weeks: “Jizo now sits and reminds us of the baby we lost – not so often as to make us sad, but often enough so that we don’t forget him entirely."
The comments below the article demonstrate that while many might not have heard of this Buddhist tradition, it is providing comfort to parents in similar situations. One woman, whose daughter died at 16, said she keeps two Jizo statues in her garden which she sometimes burns incense next to.
Other women have shared their experiences on online forums. “My (seriously awesome) boss gave me a Jizo statue after my first loss. I treasure it knowing he might be watching over our babies,” said one in 2012.
Aside from Jizo statues, the Miscarriage Association offer advice on how to mark the loss of a baby in pregnancy. They suggest a certificate, memorial ceremony, planting flowers or trees, lighting candles on anniversaries, creating memory boxes and raising money for charity in their honour.
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