Refugee crisis: Meet the London couple who offered a home to someone who needed help

‘We’ve been surprised how easy it has been,’ says one London couple who took in a refugee from Uganda

Karen Attwood
Saturday 05 September 2015 23:18 BST
Refugee Tushira Nabasirye was destitute in the UK for three months
Refugee Tushira Nabasirye was destitute in the UK for three months

Refugee Tushira Nabasirye was destitute in the UK for three months before being invited to live in the spare room of a London couple. Ms Nabasirye stayed with charity workers Anja Nyberg and Kristine Harris in their north London home for four weeks, before she was granted refugee status and moved to Stockton-on-Tees, where she now works and studies.

The 35-year-old said the couple “were like my family”. “I felt so much at home,” she said. “They were really lovely people. I really did not want to leave but I had to move on. They have other people to help.”

Ms Nabasirye had to leave Uganda, where homosexuality is punishable by up to 14 years in prison, when she was outed as gay.

She was introduced to the couple by Praxis, a charity which launched a hosting service for vulnerable migrants three years ago, and which found accommodation for 80 people last year, including 20 who were hosted by British families.

Refugee Tushira Nabasirye was destitute in the UK for three months

Ms Nyberg, 37, who is originally from Sweden, says she had reservations at first about letting a stranger into their home but the couple were aware of the plight of migrants due to her partner’s work and they “decided to give it a shot”. They have now housed four women for varying lengths of time, from a couple of weeks to a couple of months.

“Everyone says to us that we are such saints for doing this and it must be really hard, but we have been surprised at how easy it has been,” Ms Nyberg said.

This is partly due to the boundaries laid down by Praxis, who arrange a meeting to discuss a contract which lays out clearly what everyone should expect. Praxis also takes care of all the practical support, such as helping with immigration cases.

Ms Nyberg said that being a host family has been “an incredible learning experience”. “It has challenged stereotypes that I might have had about migrants, but it can also challenge the misconceptions that migrants might have about life in Britain. We are expecting our first baby, so it has been good for Tushira to see how easy it can be for a [lesbian] couple here.”

Puck de Raadt, a retired clinical psychologist who helped to found charities Bail for Immigration Detainees and Medical Justice, has been taking refugees into her home since 1998, when she went to Victoria station in London to pick up a Palestinian released from Haslar Immigration Removal Centre.

“He spoke little English, was very depressed and had nowhere to go, so I took him home and put him on the settee. He found a job almost instantly, has not been unemployed since and never sought or received welfare benefits,” she said.

Since then, she has hosted dozens of people, including a young woman who had to flee her family, who had threatened to kill her, a woman who was a victim of forced marriage and female genital mutilation, and a man from Côte d’Ivoire who had been tortured there and had also spent many months in immigration detention in the UK. He has now finally rebuilt his life and will qualify next spring as a plumber.

Ms de Raadt said: “The UK Home Office practice of imposing indeterminate migration detention on such people is the worst thing for their already precarious mental health. No government will acknowledge the long-lasting and invisible public costs incurred by these short-sighted measures.”

Similarly, Ms Nyberg said what motivated her and her partner was the knowledge that “the Government systematically fails to take care of some of the most vulnerable people in our society”.

Hosting is not the answer to this problem, she added. “It’s the Government which needs to step up to the plate, not just by accepting more refugees, but by radically improving the way that they deal with them when they arrive in the UK.”

Jean Demars, who set up the scheme for Praxis after working in the homeless sector, and who now works on a consultancy basis, said that although the charity can help some families, “there are thousands of migrants homeless in the UK, because of the dysfunctional Home Office system”.

“People with insecure immigration status have no recourse to public funds, which means they cannot access homelessness services, such as refuges, as they require housing benefit,” he said. “These are people for whom no other provision exists.” As well as finding host families, Praxis also houses migrants, who would otherwise be on the streets, in shared flats and houses.

“People don’t queue up to house people in their own homes,” he said. “However, in the past couple of weeks I have had a lot of queries from people interested in helping.” Because the Home Office is so slow at processing asylum cases, it is rare to place a refugee for less than four to six weeks and the average stay is around three to six months.

“In self-catering accommodation you can’t really provide that community support that you can get from staying with a family,” he said. “It can be an anxious moment before the host and guest meet. But it is really great to go and speak to the people afterwards, and to see how they have all been transformed by the experience.”

The week in which attitudes changed


Hungarian authorities allowed refugees, who had been camped outside Budapest’s main train station for weeks, to board trains to Austria and Germany without visa checks.


The station was closed again following chaotic scenes as hundreds packed on to trains for the border. The closure led to street protests outside and thousands started to make their way to Austria on foot.


Shocking images of the body of a young boy being recovered from a Turkish beach began to appear on news sites and social media. Turkish media named the boy as three-year-old Syrian, Aylan al-Kurdi, who died with his mother and brother in an ill-fated attempt to reach the Greek island of Kos.


Newspapers put the pictures on their front pages. The Independent printed an image showing Aylan lying face-down in the surf.


High-profile figures, including J K Rowling, added their support to calls for refugees to be offered sanctuary. Bob Geldof described the crisis as a “sickening disgrace” and pledged to accommodate four families.

David Cameron announced Britain will accept “thousands more” Syrian refugees. He said the announcement was a result of the “scale of the crisis and the suffering of the people”.


The Refugee Support Network said: “In the past few days we have received more inquiries from members of the public offering to accommodate refugees than in the past five years.”

Volunteer organisation CalAid urged people not to drive to Calais, after convoys from Belgium and elsewhere in Europe caused disruption at the French port. They instead asked people to donate through centralised distribution systems.

Crowd-funding website JustGiving said £280,000 has been donated in response to the refugee crisis since the beginning of August.

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