That first date with a best beloved - the joy, the passion, the embarrassment, the sheer farce - you remember. Whether it was an Ingrid Bergman kind of thing or more Ingmar Bergman, Jilly Cooper or Tommy Cooper, it is time to tell the world. Or at least tell us. The best accounts will be published here on 14 February and the best of all will win champagne and chocolates for the object of your desire, delivered to their door from Harrods. Entries, up to 500 words, by Wednesday 12 February to Cupid, Features Dept,

"I've often been accused of being myself on screen, but being oneself is more difficult than you'd suppose," Cary Grant once said, musing on the nature of identity. The star is back in the cinema this week in the re-released 1940 classic His Girl Friday, a screwball comedy that shows him at the height of his powers. Suave, teasing and fiendishly sexy, Grant is the model romantic lead. A glance at his life reveals that Grant is also a model of celebrity, of self subsumed by a perfectly-shaped persona.

Did Cary Grant know John Major's dad? Christopher Bray investigates; Cary Grant by Graham McCann, Fourth Estate, pounds 16.99

Pauline Kael wrote of Cary Grant: "We smile when we see him, we laugh before he does anything; it makes us happy just to look at him." It has been 10 years since Grant died and 30 years since his last film, yet his appeal is undimmed. He represents simpler, happier times; he remains Hollywood's embodiment of youth and elegance - partly because he retired with dignity before the onset of old age, partly because he could never really be anything else. Grant's warm and easy rapport with audiences outlives him, as this scrupulous, respectful biography reminds us.

Thousands of people must have yearned for some sort of happy ending to the John McCarthy and Jill Morrell story. Their book, Some other Rainbow, published after McCarthy's release from five years in captivity, was a bestseller. Although neither of them was cut out for the role of media Royal Couple, neither did they wholly discourage the idea that this most modern of relationships might survive the tribulations to which it was so publicly subjected. As in Nevil Shute's A Town Like Alice, we were persuaded that their love might just survive imprisonment, war and distance.

Sir: The Rev Michael Dunk (letter, 22 December) does not make a case with his misreading of In Memoriam. Tennyson's friend, Arthur Hallam, was not lost "at sea" but died in Vienna. The poet, in his reverie, imagines the body on the ship as it was broughtback (as it was, from Trieste) to England, to be buried at Clevedon.

Stanley Morner (Dennis Morgan), actor and singer: born Prentice, Wisconsin 30 December 1910; married 1933 Lillian Vedder (two sons, one daughter); died Fresno, California 7 September 1994.

Robert Bruce Winne (Robert Hutton), actor, producer, director, screenwriter: born Kingston, New York 11 June 1920; married (one son, one daughter); died Kingston, New York 7 August 1994.

What to wear now it's getting hot? What to wear if this summer's teeny-weeny dresses, over-the-knee socks, A-line mini-skirts or shrunken T-shirts just don't fit in with the kind of clothes you need day-to-day?

Gladys (Alexis) Smith, actress: born Penticton, British Columbia 8 June 1921; married 1944 Craig Stevens; died Los Angeles 9 June 1993.

Sir: Your television reviewer John Moore says ('The teak tycoon', 27 May) that Citizen Kane would have been proud of a scene in Tom Bower's film (Inside Story: Tiny Rowland) where an editor (me) is shown ringing his proprietor (Tiny Rowland) to tell him what line the newspaper will be taking at a coming general election.

Aben Kandel, writer, born c1897, died Los Angeles 28 January 1993.