Be your own best friend: give yourself the same level of care, understanding and support that you would to your best friend.
Be kind to yourself and your partner: you will deal with the situation in different ways, so it's important to work together, not against each other.
Do everything you can to lead a fulfilling life and don't put your life on hold.
Be proactive about socialising: make a conscious effort to plan fun things and book time with friends.
Gather the biggest possible support group around you: talk to family, friends or even colleagues and tell them what you need from them. Find a support group on the internet or in person, where you can talk to other people going through the same thing.
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