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Jameela Jamil reveals she was once punched in the face after rejecting a man

The Good Place actor recalls a time a man punched her in the face after rejecting him

Katie O'Malley
Monday 25 March 2019 11:18 GMT
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Jameela Jamil explains how she came to 'value herself' and wants to inspire others

Jameela Jamil has recalled an incident in which she rejected a man’s advances and was threatened as a result.

On Sunday, the actor tweeted a post in which she detailed an encounter with a stranger while out shopping with a friend.

“Man ogles me. Man then approaches me to give me his number. I explain I have a boyfriend but thank him for the offer," she explained in the Tweet.

"Man then threatens my career, saying I better remember that I rejected him. And then Shouts at me that I’m low class...[sic]”

Jamil’s message has since inspired several of her followers to share their own experiences of sexual misconduct from men they have rejected.

One user tweeted: "I got called a lesbian and told I was probably on my period when I rejected a guy his friend also spat a chip at me.

“And this this awesome girl came out of nowhere and started shouting at them. Not how I expected the end of my night out to go.”

Another added: “One time when I was around 13 years old, a man asked for my number and when I declined he followed me home and harassed me for around 40 minutes..

“Being a girl/woman in a world when men think they’re entitled to know a woman despite objections really is scary.”

Several users also shared their tactics to fend off advances.

“I have a standing policy with platonic male friends that if I’m feeling uncomfortable I’ll hold their hand to make it look like I’m not alone. It’s ridiculous,” revealed one woman.

The social media user added: “I’m lucky to have guy friends who understand this kind of BS and it’s never been awkward at all. It’s just frustrating that being a woman means you have to have a strategy.”

Another woman revealed one of her male friends told a man they were married after the individual "aggressively" approached her and wouldn't leave.

“Aggressor said I don’t see rings on your fingers! My guy friend threatens violence. FinallyAsshole leaves. Fun part:9yrs later I actually married my friend [sic],” she added.

The responses prompted Jamil to recall another incident during which she was punched by a man for rejecting his advances.

“I once said no thank you to man when I was 19 and didn’t have an excuse… and he punched me in the face,” she tweeted.

“After that whether or not I have a boyfriend, I say I do. Being a woman is truly, constantly scary. It’s like existing on thin ice.”

Following the flurry of responses from followers, Jamil tweeted that we “need to teach children about rejection, so that we can change the way we see rejection as a society”.

She added: “We need to de stigmatise it, so that it doesn’t feel like the ground is swallowing you up when someone says no, however nicely. This would lessen their need to lash out.”

Jamil’s story comes days after it was revealed one in 10 staff working on the London Underground have reported being sexually harassed by passengers.

A new study, released by the National Union of Rail, Maritime and Transport Workers (RMT), has revealed the extent of the harassment and abuse employees working on the London Underground regularly face.

A survey of Tube staff has found a tenth of the verbal abuse that occurs pertains to gender, while a third is in relation to race.

Furthermore, a fifth of the participants of the study said they've been physically assaulted at work.

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