Do women really need more sleep than men? Sleep myths debunked

Most people spend a third of their lives sleeping, but you may need more or less than eight hours a night

Most people spend a third of their lives sleeping, but you may need more or less than eight hours a night (Getty/iStock)

Are you getting enough sleep? While most people clock between seven and nine hours a night, experts say the real question is whether you feel rested.

Sleep, despite its vital role in our health, remains something of a mystery, according to Dr Rafael Pelayo, a sleep specialist at Stanford University.

"The reasons aren’t entirely clear," he admits, "but it’s an essential thing that we all do. Something remarkable happens when you sleep. It’s the most natural form of self-care that we have."

While the commonly cited "eight hours" serves as a general guideline, individual needs vary.

Sleep quality over quantity

Molly Atwood, a behavioural sleep medicine clinician at Johns Hopkins, points out that the seven-to-nine-hour range is associated with the fewest health problems. However, simply hitting that number doesn't guarantee you're truly rested. Prioritising sleep quality over quantity is key, though further research is needed to fully understand the complexities of sleep and its impact on our well-being.

Once people either dip into less than six hours of sleep or get more than nine hours on average, the risk of health problems inches up, Atwood said, but everybody is different.

When you’re trying to figure out how much sleep you need, it’s important to think about the quality of it, Pelayo said: “What you really want to do is wake up feeling refreshed — that’s what it’s about.”

“If somebody tells me that they sleep many hours but they wake up tired, something is wrong," Pelayo said. "You shouldn’t leave your favourite restaurant feeling hungry.”

How much sleep we need changes

Newborns need the most sleep — somewhere between 14 to 17 hours (Getty Images)

The amount of sleep we need changes throughout our lives. Newborns need the most — somewhere between 14 to 17 hours.

“Definitely when we’re babies and children, because we are growing so rapidly, we do need a lot more sleep,” Atwood said.

The National Sleep Foundation recommends most adults between 26 and 64 get between seven to nine hours of sleep. People who are 65 and older can get slightly less, and young adults between ages 16 and 25 can get slightly more.

Humans cycle through sleep stages roughly every 90 minutes. In the first portion of the night, Atwood said that more of the cycle is slow wave sleep, or deep sleep, which is essential to repairing and restoring the body. It’s also when “growth hormone” is released.

In the latter hours of the night, more of the sleep cycle is spent in rapid-eye movement sleep, or dream sleep, which is important for learning and memory consolidation, or the process in which short-term memory gets turned into long-term memory.

Kids get more “deep sleep,” with about 50% of the night in that realm, she said. That drops at adolescence, Atwood said, because our body doesn’t need the same kind of repair and restoration.

Something else interesting happens around puberty: Gender-based differences in sleep start to crop up.

Do women need more sleep than men?

Research doesn’t show that women need more sleep — but women do get slightly more sleep on average than men, Atwood said.

It starts at a young age. Though they have the same sleep needs, teenage girls seem to get less sleep than teenage boys, Pelayo said. Additionally, teenage girls tend to complain of insomnia more frequently.

When women become first-time mothers, they often care for newborns throughout the night more frequently, which means less sleep, said Allison Harvey, a clinical psychologist and professor who studies sleep at UC Berkeley.

Hormones may also impact women's sleep quantity and quality during pregnancy and menopause.

“With menopause in particular, women can develop deterioration in their sleep with an increased number and duration of nighttime awakenings,” said Dr. Mithri Junna, a Mayo Clinic neurologist who specializes in sleep.

Atwood said women may also need more sleep right before their menstrual cycle.

“There are definitely times that your body’s telling you that you need more sleep,” she said. “It’s important to listen.”

When to seek help sleeping

You'll know if you’re not getting enough sleep if you're feeling grumpy, irritable and inattentive. Long-term, those minor symptoms can become serious problems — even deadly.

“If you’re not getting enough sleep or you have untreated insomnia or sleep apnea, your risk of depression increases,” Atwood said. “Your risk of cardiovascular issues like high blood pressure, risk of heart attack and stroke increases. Your immune system is compromised. You’re at greater risk for Alzheimer’s.”

If you’re getting the recommended amount of sleep every night but still waking up feeling tired, you might consider going to your primary care physician. They can rule out other health conditions that may affect your sleep, Atwood said. But if problems persist, seeking out a sleep specialist could be helpful.

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