Letter: Does he mean well?

Sir: Being disabled, I can identify with Sandra Tong ('At last we found the fish fingers, then our wheels jammed', 8 March) but I feel she is suffering from paranoia.

I would urge her to accept any help offered because, yes, we like to be independent but in refusing help 'sharply' she has made that lady think twice before she will offer to help again, perhaps someone who really could do with just that extra bit of assistance.

We all suffer the does-he-take- sugar syndrome but it is best to take it with humour and grace.

Yours faithfully,

MARGARET CANNELL

Lytham St Annes,

Lancashire

8 March